So my baby just recently reached 30 days old. Yipppppppie!!!!
Below are some things I found interesting and some strange, from delivery till date!
1. This just has to be TOPs!
The cervix dilation check is actually physical. I came across the word “dilation” on several webpages and forums during pregnancy, heard people use the word also, but for the life of me, it NEVER occurred to me that the check is physical! Dunno! Maybe I just imagined there’d be some tech and more comfortable way of checking!
Real life, the medical practitioner actually pokes your “inside“! Ah! The first check for me was like a horror movie reality! Gosh! I was in pain and shock at the same time. Maybe the first check wasn’t done so nicely or my body adjusted to it thereafter, but subsequent checks felt just a tinnie bit better. Though, I eagerly “begged” and wanted “checking” as labor progressed (LOL!). Generally, they just didn’t feel good/right!
2. Family and friends support!
I still can’t imagine how I’d have survived these past few days without being surrounded by wonderful people. I got cooked for, baby was being bathed by wonderful mom and new mom (mom-in-law). I was pampered! I didn’t have to worry about anything, other than breastfeeding baby as at when due! I had good and wonderful care and love showers. I usually like “my space” but this motherhood thing is huge (makes me appreciate my mom and all worthy moms out there much more); and having such great help, makes my healing and my transition into this phase a whole lot easier!
Watching a mom breastfeed, to an observer, it looks pretty automatic, right?! Like the mom just whips out the breast, and the baby finds the breast and starts to suck, viola! Nah, not exactly! There’s actually a technique! Proper latching is key! Sitting in the right posture is also key! Being relaxed is important! I was so eager to breastfeed and found it easy to position on one breast, struggled with positioning using my other side. I also had issues with poor latching and tried again and again. I can say I have made some great improvements! 🙂 I was lucky to have a community nurse invited by my new mom (mother-in-law), come over to the house to speak to me, encouraged me to relax, and keep at it, corrected my positioning, and was able to shut my moms up through her lectures, as they were pestering me to feed baby formular, fearing that baby wasn’t getting enough breastmilk. (His weight check later confirmed he’s doing great! He has added good weight) Having them there while the nurse was around, helped take the pressure off and then they learnt to leave me with my decision to exclusively breastfeed. Not like I was moved to do otherwise anyways!
So for new moms and moms-to-be, read up, and if you can watch someone do it physically, and make your observations!
I had some nipple pains initially. The nursing pain gets better over time.
Let me also add that whatever your choices, you’d do just fine! To breastfeed or not to, is perfectly fine! Ultimately, do what’s best for you, and your baby! Your choices are yours, not anyone else’s to make!
4. Sleep while baby sleeps. With a question mark.
This good ole advise! Well I try to nap during the day when he does, works sometimes, sometimes it doesn’t. I’m beginning to find my rhythm now, and can stay awake during the day without feeling so sick. First few days were so hard, the struggle to wake during the night to feed baby was real mehn! I felt like a sleep-deprived zombie for the most part of the day!
5. Tummy actually gets flat even after delivery. No need for any magic!
I have always thought about wearing a girdle immediately after delivery, even before I knew I was pregnant. I’m not vain! I’m just big on getting my pre-pregnancy body back! I love the way I am! So, immediately after baby’s arrival I thought of calling the postpartum girdle sales-person, I still haven’t gotten the girdle for some reason, but my belly is almost back to the way it was before pregnancy. I’ve also lost all the weight.
Pre-pregnancy: 56kg, Last measurement before delivery: 70kg, 1 month after delivery: 58kg. Did nothing special, I eat normally.
Love your body and if you are still with plenty of extra weight even after delivery, you are beautiful, and your body just experienced a miracle, so be amazingly kind to it! Do some exercise, and eat healthy. I really wish you the very best. P.S: I may still get the girdle though, and I’d also like to start ab-firming exercises asap, for toned belly! *winks*
6. I still bask in the miracle of birthing life! God is awesome!
7. Appreciating my parents much more!!!!!
I know parenting is a big deal! But the extent of the “big deal” is just being real to me now!
8. Bathing a new born is so daunting.
Thankfully, I had MIL do this and she still does it now sometimes! I bet I’d get a hang of it soon. Watching and learning!
9. Getting sprayed in the face multiple times during diaper changes.
It appears baby boys like the feel of fresh air on the bum. I’ve learnt to always be quick and have it covered!
10. Don’t splurge too much on new born clothes. Especially if you know baby’s estimated weight before delivery.
Seriously they grow fast!
Find the time to rest, you’ve been through a lot!
12. My appetite for food reduced and is still not back to normal. But I TRY to eat well!
13. Contraceptives/Family planning/Birth control
I have to read up on that too?!
I fully support family planning, been a fan since I was a kid, trust me! No time for unplanned kids or having too many kids and not taking good care of them! It just never crossed my mind before or during pregnancy to read up on my options and decide what’s best for us as a family concerning contraceptives. So now I have to read that up asap within these next few days, speak to senior moms about their choices, and the docs also, to finally settle on one!
14. The love for baby!!!!! Full stop!
So there you have it…. Some of the things from the top of my head! And this is for me, may be totally different for you!
Comments? Different experience – Tough ones, fun ones, weird ones? Pls do share. Kisses!